Tuula Rasen 

In his popular 2016 opinion article Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person in the New York Times, Alain de Botton writes: "It’s one of the things we are most afraid might happen to us. We go to great lengths to avoid it. And yet we do it all the same: We marry the wrong person. Partly, it’s because we have a bewildering array of problems that emerge when we try to get close to others. We seem normal only to those who don’t know us very well.” [...] "The problem is that before

“As a young man I believed if I could just find the “right” person, happiness would automatically follow. There was so much I didn’t understand. That each of us is responsible for our own happiness. That if I didn’t treat myself with consideration and care, chances are others wouldn’t treat me that way either. I didn’t understand pain. I thought the many kinds of pain we suffer when we love another person – longing, anxiety, grief – were feelings to avoid, symptoms to be remo

"Couples can come for help for all kinds of reasons" — Andrew Balfour, CEO, Tavistock Relationships Couples therapy in London and online. Tavistock Relationships