Tuula Rasen 

In their book 'What They Forgot to Teach You at School, published in 2021, Alain de Botton and The School of Life team write: "We are, most of us, supremely gifted at the art of self-hatred. If we treated a stranger the way we tend to treat ourselves, we might be arrested for cruelty. In our low moments, we compare the way we are to the way we would ideally want to be — and cannot forgive ourselves for how far we have fallen from our own ideals. We scan our intimate histories