Mirabai Starr on loss

"People will often avoid mentioning our loved one's name for fear it will remind us and make us sad. As if we could ever forget! As if we had stopped for a moment, being sad! Our sorrow is directly connected to our love, and we refuse to be shamed into relinquishing it. In fact, when someone is brave enough to speak of our loved one, it can be such a relief. It means she existed; she mattered. For a moment, there is another being to help lift and carry the great weight of her memory, bringing her back from the private shadows of our own heart into the generous light of community." — Mirabai Starr, Wild Mercy: Living the Tender Wisdom of the Women Mystics

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